I was a selfish bitch in my marriage.
Nothing was ever good enough.
I took him for granted and now I lost that.
These are the videos that women need to watch.
It's been 20 days since I was last cracked
and I didn't even get a good night kiss.
You probably used language similar to 20 days
since I last got cracked on the date
and he realized who he was dealing with
and that guy probably wasn't looking for a hot.
Do you think that women fought for the right
to have our own money?
Just to turn around and give that to a man?
If guys wanted to take away your rights,
they would do it.
Men, get off your ass and go help your wife
or your girlfriend in the kitchen.
Who bought the food?
I'm curious.
That's not even a thing I really think about.
It's like, what's this man's body count?
Yeah, honey, it doesn't matter to you.
Again, I will tell you.
Hey, y'all, welcome to a brand new episode
of The Jetta Diabela Show.
I'm so glad you're here.
Today's show is fire.
It is fire.
And we are leading off with a clip that went viral.
A woman admits that she was an awful wife.
Oh yeah.
Let's hear the rant.
Number one, let's hit it.
I was a selfish bitch in my marriage.
I've been divorced now almost four years,
but I was married to my ex-husband, 16 years,
and with him, 18 years.
And again, I was a selfish bitch.
Nothing was ever good enough.
I took him for granted.
He seriously rolled out the red carpet for me.
He was sweet, kind, generous.
He told me how much he loved me five times a day.
He told me how beautiful I was every day.
If he'd wake me up in the morning
because he knows I love massages,
wake me up rubbing my shoulders.
He'd rub my feet every evening
while we were watching TV.
If I said, for example,
oh, I'm craving a Dr. Pepper,
he'd be like, okay, let me go to the corner store
and get it.
He adored me.
He was amazing.
Like, on paper, it's whatever girl wants, seriously.
And yeah, I took it for granted.
And now I lost that, right?
And I carried a lot of guilt because I caused it.
That's my biggest regret in life,
is not saving the whole family aspect.
The grass is not always greener on the other side, ladies.
It's not.
I'm good now.
I feel great and he's super happy with his girlfriend.
And honestly, I could not be happier for him
because he deserved to be loved and cared about
and respected as he should have always been.
So I'm so happy that he's happy.
Anyways, what I'm saying, ladies,
the grass is not greener on the other side.
If you have a good guy, take care of him.
Take care of him.
Trust me, there's nothing good out in these streets.
He seriously set the bar.
He set the bar.
And ultimately, what I always wanted, I had all along.
So we have good right in front of us
and we don't know how to take care of it.
Good on her.
And I'm sure that these videos are not easy to make, right?
But good on her, right?
And maybe there's a lot of women out there that we cover.
In fact, we know they should be paying attention to this.
Should they not?
So this is a woman who was married,
she said she was married for 16 years
to a really good guy who did everything for her
down to foot massages and being kind,
being loyal, being faithful.
If she wanted something at the corner store running out.
I mean, he was doing for her and she took advantage of it.
Now, what happened there?
She probably thought that, well, you know what?
On the s***, XYZ, oh, I deserve this,
that I can always replace him.
Women go through this, the grass is always greener,
type of thing, right?
Maybe she was bored, maybe he was doing too much
and she got bored.
I always tell you that the guys need to like
hold frame in the sense that you can be a gentleman.
In fact, if you have a really good woman,
treat her well, but when you see
that they're starting to not appreciate it,
starting to take advantage of you,
starting to treat you like dirt,
you gotta put your foot down,
you gotta step in and be like,
hey, listen, I don't like your attitude.
That's not gonna work for me.
You got a holding frame means that you have self-respect.
Meaning you don't get walked all over,
you don't get treated like garbage.
You don't let women do this,
oh, you know what?
I'm just gonna take, take, take and not give.
You don't let, he needed to step up at some point
in that situation and draw the line, right?
Put her in her place and it sounds like he didn't.
Now, maybe that would have worked.
Maybe you wouldn't.
Maybe she was a grass is always greener kind of girl.
Maybe she thought she could replace him really easily.
And guess what she learned?
She couldn't.
She, that situation ended.
It sounded like they have a family too on top of it all,
which obviously this is all extremely selfish.
When you have a family,
you prioritize your family, you do everything you can.
You don't take advantage of a good man
and then let him go because the grass
is always greener, right?
And she knows that now, right?
To her credit, she knows that now.
But he got a girlfriend who's treating him well
and she's alone, right?
She's alone and she, guess what?
She went out into the dating world
and found out that the grass wasn't always greener, right?
And that he had set the bar high
and that this magic Prince Charming from Cinderella
was not just gonna appear for her
and do everything right all the time
and be at her back and call and all of these things.
And she had to self-reflect.
She had to get rejected ultimately to self-reflect
because what happened was here is that she,
he was doing and doing and doing,
she gets out into the dating
and they probably were like, I'm not gonna,
some guy probably said to her,
I'm not gonna take your, right?
She needed to be put in her place
to actually self-reflect and see
that her behavior had been so toxic and so bad
and that she had been the cause,
the root cause of that marriage disintegrating.
So this is really important.
These are the videos that women need to watch.
These are the videos that these young TikTok
ingrate wives, they need to watch these
and see, see what you're doing.
If your husband wakes up one day and says,
I'm tired and leaves and actually leaves,
you're gonna be up Creek, right?
Because you're gonna be trying
to replace a really good man.
And guess what?
The world's not full, you know, back to back
of guys that are gonna do and die for you
that are gonna take a little bit of your right?
Because listen, it just doesn't work like that.
So now she's probably having to become a different human,
right?
To be able to try to attract somebody.
And obviously it gets harder as you get older, right?
It's not as easy.
You're not, now she's got kids.
It's a whole different ball game.
So I wanna give her credit for doing this
because she's trying to, women like this, by the way,
are the ones that are trying to help women.
Not the one out ones out there being like,
oh, you know what, you're worth it
and screw all these guys and guys suck
and they're not helping women.
These women are helping women
because they're saying, I messed up, I'm owning up,
I'm taking accountability for what I did.
Don't do what I did.
You'll land in Creek and you won't be happy.
The grass is not always greener.
What a message.
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Okay, number two.
You know how women are always saying,
oh, we want respect.
We want respect.
Well, let's listen to how this one talks.
It's 2.30 a.m. and I just finished a first date.
And you would think 2.30 a.m.
must have been a great date.
I'm walking myself home.
I shaved every single crevice of my body.
It's been 20 days since I was last cracked
and I didn't even get a good night kiss.
Mind you, we were five minutes from my apartment
and he wouldn't even walk me home.
Okay, right in a little note,
five minutes from apartment, no walk home.
Can't imagine why.
Okay, so she's walking herself home.
She shaves every ounce of her body.
The only reason women do that
is because they're looking to get some, right?
That's the only reason.
If women don't, like, all the grooming is just,
that type of grooming is just to get some.
Honey, let me tell you why he didn't walk you home.
Because you probably used a language
similar to 20 days since I last got cracked on the date
and he realized who he was dealing with
and that guy probably wasn't looking for a, right?
There's, this comes through in your personality
that you're sleeping around,
that you're looking to get some,
that you're looking for a first date
that goes till 2.30 a.m.
And you wish it had gone later
because the nasty was happening.
He got that sense.
Guys don't respect women who act and talk like this.
Now it's interesting that this guy
didn't even do the nasty with her, right?
Some guys will decide,
oh, this is like a one-eyed stand.
I'm just gonna do it.
You shouldn't, not good.
Some of y'all do it though, right?
Some guys will just use that situation
and be like, you know what?
She's looking to get used.
I'm looking, let me just get my, you know,
quick little thrill out of this
and not call her tomorrow or something like that.
He didn't even do that.
Probably because this guy was looking
for something different, right?
If he's not, if he gets the vibe
that you're easy on day one
and he doesn't sleep with you,
it's because he's not looking for easy.
He's looking for some quality situation
and you ain't it.
Honey, you ain't it, right?
Now why?
If you're willing to release a video
as a young woman saying,
oh, it's been 20 days since I was last cracked.
What else are you saying out there?
You put that on video
and put it up for the whole world to see.
My guess is that you weren't acting like a lady on the date.
Just saying.
I love this.
I love when women like this act like this.
And then, you know, a year later,
I'm like, no good guys will talk to me.
What am I doing wrong?
All I said was that I hadn't gotten cracked in 20 days.
The dumb hurts, honey.
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All right, number three is kind of like a word salad,
but it's an important one.
Let's hit it.
Okay, genuine question for those that say
that women should go 50-50 in a relationship with a man
because it's the 21st century and we're equals now.
Do you think that women fought, fought, by the way,
fought, fought for the right to have our own money,
have our own bank accounts, have our own property,
just to turn around and give that to a man,
to the same people that were fighting us on it,
that were like, no, you're not equal.
Oh man, I wish you could have a bank account,
but you're just not equal.
You're not equal to us.
Oh no, dang it, oh man.
And then we fought them so f***ing hard
that they were like, okay, fine, but we get half.
And you think the women that were doing the fighting
were like, yeah, that totally makes sense.
I did all of this just so I could split it with you.
I did all of this so that you could have half the money
that I'm working so hard for.
Do you have brain hemorrhage?
Hey, hey, do you have a tumor?
Cause that happens, by the way.
Like some people do develop tumors in their brains
and they become violent and crazy
and then they get them taken out
and they become normal again.
That might be happening with you
because your words aren't making any sense.
I saw it on the pit.
I would get that checked out.
Okay, so this whole video is a word salad
from like a little bit of a Dumbo, just saying.
I'm not talking about her ears either.
This is like the light up here is not on too bright, you know?
Okay, first of all, I love the perception,
well, guys fought us on equality
and guys from equality, I'm gonna say
because men and women aren't equal.
We're not the same, okay?
And she knows that,
which is why she expects men to pay for things
and to not go 50-50.
She's inherently defeating her entire argument
with her own speech.
But honey, again, I will tell you,
if guys wanted to take away your rights,
they would do it.
They're stronger.
They would just take it away.
This is not, guys didn't fight you and fight you
and you fought them and won and got these things.
That's not how it worked.
Society evolved and some may feel
that some of these evolutions
aren't necessarily good, frankly.
And some may feel that some of these evolutions are amazing.
Whatever your stand is, society evolved.
People's thoughts on these things evolved,
whether it be who has bank accounts
and who votes and whatever it may be.
But if there was truly going to be a desire
on the part of men,
and why we mean majority of men, right?
To stop you from doing these things,
don't you think it would have worked?
You just wouldn't be getting away with all of this now,
right?
If men really wanted you to not have the right to vote,
you wouldn't have it.
You wouldn't have it, okay?
So stop thinking, well, we fought.
What'd you get out?
Your cannons and your bows and arrows, honey?
I mean, really, be realistic about what you're saying.
Men decided that they wanted you to have these things
and that's why you have them.
And it could easily be taken away
if that were the goal.
It's not.
Okay, that's number one.
Secondly, in one breath she's saying,
guys don't believe we're equal.
Guys don't give us the credit that we're equal.
They don't want us to be equal.
Well, honey, if you're equal,
then why aren't you paying for half of everything?
If you're equal, then why is the expectation
that a man would do all of these things?
Why?
Because you're not equal.
You have a different expectation of men
because you're not equal.
You're not equal, you're not the same.
So just acknowledge that, right?
It's like I wanna be equal when it serves me.
When it comes time to go to the voting booth,
I wanna be equal.
But when it comes time to pay all the bills
and it comes time to do all these things,
oh, never mind.
I'm a damsel in distress, right?
This is why it's so jaded.
And this is what happens with the voting argument too,
where guys are like,
okay, do you wanna have to sign up for civil service?
No, but we have to do that in order to vote.
Oh, well, I'm not doing that,
but I should get to vote anyway
because we're equal.
Oh, so then if we're equal,
then you should have to sign up for civil service?
No, because it's not about equality.
They want to be given a special set of rules for them
and they wanna be able to say we're equal
but not actually have to live by the standards
that true equality would require them to live by.
It's horny.
Oh, God, nauseating.
The whole thing is just a word salad, right?
And then you're like, oh my God, honey,
you're like making my argument with your own word salad.
Okay, number four is a doozy.
Let's play it.
I'm not even gonna lead in with this one.
This one is just ooh, ooh, ooh.
Men, get off your ass and go help your wife
or your girlfriend in the kitchen
because I promise you she's probably
way too hot for you anyway.
You should be lucky she even gave you the time of day.
My ex-boyfriend used to come over to my house
every Saturday and Sunday
and before he would get there,
I would go to the grocery store
and prepare all the meals, cook all the meals
and I did this for him and I for weeks.
And eventually I got so fed up of doing all the cooking
and all the cleanup afterwards.
So I brought it up to him and I said,
hey, it would be nice
if you could contribute a little bit.
He was so okay every single weekend watching me
in the kitchen, not offering his assistance,
not contributing.
I can't help but wonder to myself,
did this man even really like me
or did he even really respect me at all?
Okay, I would love to know the details of this.
So who bought the food?
I'm curious who bought the food
because if he, let's say,
let's say he bought all the food
and he was like, okay, I'm gonna pay for all of this.
Don't worry, I got it.
And then in turn you were preparing it
and cooking it.
That was kind of like a deal, right?
That's kind of like, oh, I contribute one thing
and you contribute something else.
So what if he had said, oh, you know what?
I'm gonna help you in the kitchen,
but let's split the cost of the food.
I guarantee you she would have been like,
that's so not gentlemanly, right?
Okay, so is it so not feminine to be like waiting,
being like, oh, you gotta help me do this?
I'm just curious, like this is,
and I'm not saying guys should never help in the kitchen.
That's not the argument here.
The argument here is that why are women
always able to say,
you're not doing enough in the area I need you to do.
But if guys ever turned around and said,
well, you're not doing enough in the area
I need you to do more in,
there would be like a rebellion, right?
I have no problem with guys helping in the kitchen.
I have no guys with problem with guys saying,
hey, you know what, I'm gonna throw in,
my husband will throw in like,
I'll come home sometime,
so we'll throw in some burgers,
stuff that he likes to eat,
stuff that's easy.
He's not gonna go and take out a recipe book
and be like, oh, a quarter teaspoon,
it's not happening.
But if it's just throw some burgers in the oven
or it's grill something or something like that,
he'll do it.
There's no problem with helping to clean up.
What there is a problem with, again,
is expecting a guy to do, do, do, do,
in the same way that you'll see these TikTok wives
and they'll be like, well, my husband goes to work
all day, he's not here.
And then when he gets home,
he expects me to have cleaned the house.
And I'm like, what did you do all day?
I'm just asking, what the hell?
I mean, when I'm home, I'm happy to do it.
If I'm not out working, I'm happy to be like,
I'm gonna do the laundry, I'm gonna keep,
like I don't understand, what is your freaking role?
What is your role?
Are you supposed to be doing for the house
that you don't resent, right?
If he's out working all day, and this is like a similar,
it just rings like, now maybe this particular video,
maybe this guy was just in in grade and they,
I don't know.
There are bad apples out there when it comes to men too,
but just this like outrage of like,
he didn't do this, he didn't do that, he didn't,
and also equating him with ugly by the way,
like, oh, she was probably too hot for you anyway.
What are you talking about?
Oh, so now it's like only an ugly guy
or a guy that couldn't land a hot girl,
wouldn't be helping out in the kitchen.
What are you even saying, honey?
Ladies, listen, if you want guys to do stuff for you,
you gotta do stuff for guys.
And just take a minute and consider what,
I feel like guys never get credit
for what they do actually do, right?
So a guy could go to the store with you
and you know, $300 worth of groceries
and pay the bill for those groceries, bring them home
and then step out to get some work done
and you're like, are you gonna help me cook this?
Right, it just rubs me so wrong.
It's like instead of like, hey, babe,
you know what, thank you, this is awesome,
I'm gonna make something now.
Do you want something to eat?
I don't know, it just seems like it should be more
of like a give and take.
It just doesn't feel that.
It feels like just take, take, take, complain,
take, take, take, complain, like what the hell?
Again, I'm not saying guys should never help in the kitchen
or I have any problem with guys helping in the kitchen.
It's just the demand of like what exactly happened here?
Did you actually take a second to think about
what happened?
I would love to know, did he pay for the food?
Did he, like what else was he doing
while you were doing this?
Was he making money to then be able to pay for all the food
that you guys were eating that was like fresh cooked food
or like what, what is the dynamic there?
Was he doing nothing?
Was he playing video games all day while you were cooking?
That's a different story.
You know, what is the context here
that enables you to bitch and moan at this level?
I would just love to know because I just have a feeling
that it probably wasn't as she's describing.
Just saying just based on the tone
and the fact that she automatically said
the girl was way hot and too hot for you
if the guy wasn't helping in the kitchen.
Just told me that she already had a tone
of resentment about the whole situation
that was a little warped.
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I'm sure they get wary about me too.
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It's an antiquated way of thinking.
Okay, again, this is a refusal
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but not to say you're never gonna care at all
if it's an extreme circumstance.
Like I always say to a point, right?
Women don't care about body count,
but if there's a guy that literally sleeps
with everything that walks,
that could get to be a turn off, right?
But if it's a guy that's been with 20 or 30 people,
I'm telling you, women are just gonna be like,
well, was he in college?
That's how they watch them on interviews.
That is how they speak about it.
A guy will be like,
okay, I guess she's in the one night category.
Next, it just as men and women are different
and you can fight that
and you can twist yourself into a knot, honey,
or you can accept it and live a happy life, your choice.
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